I get a lot of surprised comments & shocked expressions when people ask about my Ex-husbands & I tell them what great guys they are. The expressions & comments get even better when I tell them that my Ex's stay in my home & use our cars when they come to visit. It simply doesn't seem to be a situation many people can comprehend. But I love it & it works for our family...Amazingly I have managed to find & marry 3 wonderful fathers, men who adore their children, pay child support, call their children almost nightly & who come out to visit their children as often as they can instead of taking big vacations. My Ex husbands try to help out with any financial extras that come up for the kids, they take their vacations to our home to spend time with their children & when they are here in my home they are polite, helpful, respectful & fun to be around for all of us.
My children have 3 men who love, play with, look after, spend time with & are thoughtful of ALL of them. Sometimes I worry that the biological children will feel left out a little because the dads play with ALL of the kids ALL of the time, but it never seems to be a problem. I have 3 wonderful men in my children's lives who help build playgrounds, cook dinner, run errands, put together bikes, wash dishes, seal cement floors, mow lawns & who will work on cars when they are in my home without hesitation or complaint. There isn't arguing or fighting & the children are always put first... which has been the plan from the beginning. YES I have had all 3 Ex-husbands/husband in my home for extended visits or holidays all at the same time & it was a lot of fun for everyone. Obviously it is not 'The Perfect' situation but I believe it is as close to it as you can get & when problems or situations arise we deal with it & work it out together.
Not only do I have wonderful fathers for my children but we have been gifted with an amazing extended family. My kids have a ton of Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, Great Grandparents & other loved ones who love & spoil them. Perfect Examples~ #1- When Grandma Pati sends a holiday package to Sarah & Rachel there are always treats & gifts inside of it for the 3 little ones and #2- When Aunt Tiffany takes ALL of the kids a few at a time to the Pumpkin Patch or Haunted House every year. The kids are called on holidays & birthdays, they are ALL talked to on SKYPE & they all feel loved, special & looked after. that is the point after all isn't it- not who is married to who or who divorced who & why... it's making sure that the family unit is in tact & that the children grow up in the most loving & supportive environment possible. I am so blessed to have 3 men & an extended family who help make that possible for my children. If you want to raise your eyebrows in shock at something raise them in shock at the awesome job we are doing because we are!
2 comments:
I've always loved the way you have handled this. Like a grown up. I wish more people were like this. After all, it is about the kids and what is best for them. I miss you!!!
It is definately an interesting situation, but it works. Thank you for allowing that "extended family" to be a part of the kids lives.
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